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Do they deserve your kindness?

I have always been a huge supporter of spreading positivity and kindness. I have always been that person that goes out of their way to help others, to make sure others are happy. I as a person, have always hated to see somebody hurting, and loved to see people smiling. That is just the way I am. But I think as I have grown older, I have found myself questioning whether certain people deserve my kindness. Because sometimes you have to drop your act and think about yourself for a minute. And think about whether the kindness you are giving away is being returned, or simply stolen from you.

I think sometimes, being kind is my weakness. Being kind makes me a vulnerable person, because I just care so much about others. And as good as that may sound, it can become damaging. You see, no matter how much somebody hurts me, I will not show it. No matter how much somebody affects me, no matter how much they make me feel bad. When ever they will feel bad, I will always be there to comfort them. Becuase I have always seen sadness in this world, and I have always wanted to do my best to eradicate that saddness. Even if it means giving all of my kindness away, and never seeing it again.

But, I think that there is a certain extent to being kind. Because kindness is such a valuable thing. Kindness embodies every single detail of beauty, and that beauty should be appreciated. So you have to know when your kindness is being appreciated and when it is not. As when it is not, the person you are giving your kindness too, just does not deserve it.

There are so horrible humans in this world, who do horrible things. And those humans, do not deserve my kindness. But there are great humans in this world. Ones that will support me through anything, like I would do them. There are people who will smile at you in the street, or give you a compliment. And you do not have to know them. But you do have to appreciate their kindness. Because kindness can be rare to find, and sometimes it can be given so often that it becomes meaningless.

It’s all about finding the balance between giving kindness, and making sure that you are not giving too much. Because when you give too much kindness to somebody who does not do the same to you, it is such a waste of such a beautiful thing. And that sort of raw, emotional beauty, never deserves to be wasted.

I think its allΒ  about the realisation. Realising what you are worth, and realising what the other person is worth. See you are all amazing, you are all humans with a beating heart, scars, crazy hair and all those flaws that you despise. But you are a gorgeous human, you are a human with so much power, you have the power to do anything, to change the world, to shape your own future. And you have to realise how much you should be valued, so you can stop letting people underestimate that value. Sometimes you have to slam your foot down and make this very earth shake, sometimes you have to because you mean so much, you deserve so much. And ultimately you deserve for your beautiful kindness, to be returned.

I don’t quite know, when this society began to turn its nose down to the very idea of smiling at a stranger. I don’t quite know when this society began to fear anybody that crossed their path in the street. I don’t quite know when this idea of kindness just disintegrated. And I do not know why people will so happily take kindness, but never return it. I don’t know why these things have happened, but if there is one thing that I know. It’s that your kindness means far too much, to be simply taken away from you.

Thank you so much for reading, I honestly do not have a clue as to what I would do without you all. Remember that you are one human with one life, do what makes YOU happy and make it count.

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Keep on spreading kindness lovelies, you never know what somebody is going through. So please don’t assume things. If you see a stranger crying, give them a hug. If you hear a random girl critiquing herself, tell her she is beautiful. We cannot make a positive change to society unless we all try our hardest to make that change.

Love, Misstery

 

 

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38 thoughts on “Do they deserve your kindness?

  1. Hi Misstery! Your words of compassion and the spirit to serve is very motivating.I also believe the same and similarly, have often found questioning myself the rationale behind my thinking.Then I found these lines, said to be very dear to Mother Teresa. These lines have given me strength many a times I become confused.

    People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

    If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

    If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.

    If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.

    What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.

    If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.

    The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.

    Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.

    In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.

    Thanks for your post! πŸ™‚

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  2. Omigosh! Sister! This is so true and just a suggestion DON’T BE SO KIND TO PEOPLE! THEY DON’T DESERVE IT! No matter how much you do for others they never do it you. Who knows even I don’t deserve being called your sister but yet you are still so sweet to have called me your sister . And I love ya for being my sister!!!

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  3. I feel like we are the same person- kindness is my weakness. For some reason I forgave someone who was crying because my friend told me that she was spreading rumours and stories to her that her dreams were of her killing me in really violent ways. Thats why she cried? wow. Cause she thought I was stealing her friend. I didn’t want to leave her lonely and stuff, but I was soo mad. I will never forgive that person for the trouble she caused, but out of the kindness in me I forced my friend to forgive her so that she wouldn’t be lonely. I ended up being lonely instead. Bullies from the past don’t deserve my kindness but it’s okay, I’m still kind anyways, pretending nothing happened – but mostly neutral when they are nearby. It’s weird. I feel like my parents have taught me really good morals and I can see how people are okay, if they deserve to be forgiven- I know the good thing to do and in the past I haven’t been so good. But i’m thankful I guess. I’m not positive, but i’m kind- but i’m quite. Give up my seat when I see friends want to sit next to each other. Because i’m not saving any seats, I can sit anywhere and be fine. I can tell if they are uncomfortable with me around or they are saving seats. I can always tell from their eyes. They don’t make it too obvious, which is nice but it’s okay I guess. Anyways people who don’t deserve kindness- i stay neutral there. I don’t talk anyways so I don’t care. I’m good at defending myself but I can’t say anything when they are there. Later on I think of a smart reply back but there and then, i’m just reallly boiling with anger when they say something rude about me but to my friend like i’m not there. Kindness forbids I guess, so I just stay quite like always. I’m not like them. I’m not the positive happy person though. They are rare and precious. My friend is actually like that, despite what she has been through in the past. Inspiration.

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    • Yes this is what I do. Honestly hunny sometimes you have to think about yourself. Because some people don’t deserve your kindness, and when those people don’t give you mutual support, the friendship can become damaging, like you said. But you have to think about yourself and stand up for yourself, if somebody has been mean to you then please stands up for yourself. Because you are such a great and lovely person, and you really don’t deserve that πŸ’™πŸ’™πŸ’™

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  4. You are super right.. Sometimes, we are giving a generous dose of kindness to wrong people and it makes us question ourselves if we’re doing it wrong… When these things happen, we can tell ourselves that we didnt lose anything for giving away kindness.. If he’s been cruel, that’s on him! πŸ˜‰ but just like u said, it can be damaging that’s why learning should follow… Be kind and wise πŸ˜‰

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  5. I do understand what you mean πŸ’‹ At the end of the day, choose to be kind… Be as generous as you can in spreading kindness πŸ˜‰ just like @rosypop said in her blog, spread it like a confetti… You’d never ran out of it anyways bec. kindness is from the heart and it seemed that u have a kind heart❀️

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    • Honestly I do always choose to be kind πŸ™‚ What I meant was that sometimes we chose to be kind to the wrong people. Take an example of a abusive relationship. Somebody in that relationship will shower the other half in love, but they are not getting it back. So sometimes giving your kindness to the wrong people can be damaging. Thank you so much for your lovely words, you are such a kind wonderful person. Have a fabulous day :)πŸ’•

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  6. I love this post sooo much and it is very true! I try to be a kind person as well but just like you said – some people don’t deserve the kindness. I think that kind and positive people are very rare in this world and thank you for doing this post as it was so true and inspirational! Xxx

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